Marriage Transaction – Do YOU Live Up To YOUR End Of The Deal?

Introduction

When you got married you made certain promises about loving your wife for the rest of your life - “until death do us part.” Do you live up to your end of the deal? Or have you broken the contract by slipping into a pattern of getting by without showing too much affection for your wife?

A Man's Responsibility To Love

It is often said that men want sex, while women want love. I once read the following statement somewhere, "Making love is what a woman does while a man is banging her.” This type of thing is sometimes said tongue-in-cheek, but often it is accepted as standard practice. It is assumed that men cannot properly love and that it is acceptable because "that is just the way it is."

I do NOT agree with that sentiment. It is your double responsibility to love your wife - first it is your responsibility because you are being obedient to God, and second it is your responsibility because you promised that lady at your side that you would love her forever. You have to do it - and you CAN do it. All you have to do is to want to do it.

A Biblical Perspective

In Ephesians 5: 25 we husbands are given the following command, “A husband should love his wife as much as Christ loved the church and gave his life for it.”

Now, if God had made husbands incapable of loving their wife, do you think God would have given such a command? Neither do I.

You ARE Capable Of Loving Your Wife - And You HAVE To Do It

You have been made by God to be his representative in your home, and therefore God has blessed you with the capability and the capacity to love. And then He commanded you to do exactly that which He made you for.

You managed it easily while you were still courting the girl who eventually became your wife. So what happened? Why do you think you are no longer inclined to be a loving being? That is all false thinking.

Love Is A Choice

To love someone is a conscious choice that you make. And you can make that choice at any time. Or re-make it if you have allowed yourself to drift into a less-than-loving being towards your wife.

Summary

Make the choice today – and every day henceforth – to love your wife. Love her enough to be willing to give your life for her. Love her with your heart and your soul. She IS the most important person in your life – recognise that and show it by showering her with your love. If you do this, you will not only be living up to your end of the deal, but you will also be obedient to God's command that you must love your wife.

Never Stop Working On Your Marriage

If you are serious about your marriage, I would like to invite you to join me in further discovering the detailed things that your wife wants from you to be a good husband by reading my eBook in which are to be found many more tips on how to be the type of husband your wife wants.

Get your own copy today, and start applying its tips to become a better husband - one that your wife will love with all her heart.

Thanks for reading, and may I wish you a long, happy and fulfilling marriage - Schalk Lubbe